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Meet The Mysterious Alpha Male

Wednesday, March 15th, 2006

The word “Alpha male” is normally used in animal research, denoting those male members of the species who display forceful, domineering traits. Because of these specific characteristics, these males were responsible in the overall evolution of the species, as they were the primary originators of the reproduction process, passing their characteristic genes to the offspring.

Likewise, the Alpha Male in our society are those, who has the maximum physical prowess (not necessarily) and most importantly they are the cleverest of the lot. Please don’t misconstrue the word “clever” as someone “intelligent”, as we will delve deeper later.

I would much rather describe him as being shrewd, ingenious or even canny. These men (there are plenty of them) have the natural advantage of bagging the winner’s seat, in terms of attracting female attention. By nature, they get the maximum opportunity to pass on their genes to the next generation!

The Alpha Male is capable of arousing immediate attraction in females who see him as a prospect for intimacy. Though he exudes his own brand of charm, the “beta” male always stand “second” to the Alpha Male.

The “Beta” Man is more civil, perhaps a good duplicate of an Alpha, but always the follower, never the Leader. Women may think of him as good for domesticity, but when it comes to igniting her passion with a sense of urgency, the Alpha Man beats everyone hollow.

The reason for such attractiveness in a Alpha Male takes into consideration many biological and chromosomal factors like bilateral symmetry (the extent to which a body exhibits balance in its features) and the right proportion of weight and muscle distribution in his body, giving him the Adonis look, as well as freedom from harmful genetic problems.

Talking of Alpha members of species, it is interesting to note that it is not necessarily the male! For instance, amongst horses, the oldest mare is the declared leader. The oldest stallion on the contrary only owns a pack and is responsible for guarding them from predators and other dangers. Thus, physical prowess is not the only determining factor to be Alpha.

Thus it is not merely the physical strength that gets you the Alpha position, but deportment, self-confidence and intelligence, takes you there. Brains, more than brawns.

For the purpose of this article, I refer to Alpha Male as a human whose positive in-born male aggressive qualities has matched with cultured intelligence and disciplined thoughts.

You too can become an Alpha Man by your talent of rational thoughts, your appearance and manners and complete control over your mind and body. The new leader.

Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com

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Kickstart Your Sex Life Today And Start To Have Fun

Saturday, March 11th, 2006

Has your sex life been a bit neglected lately?  Its not like you don’t care but well, it’s just finding the time and energy.  It seems impossible some days because there’s work and cleaning and working out and grocery shopping and cooking dinner, laundry, kids, family commitments, friends, ironing!  When you do get horizontal you pass out within minutes.  Or you’re not in the mood.  Or you just can’t be bothered.  Soon enough a month has passed and you can’t remember the last time you had sex.  And when was the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck?  

Or maybe you’ve just fallen into a rut.  You have sex in the same place at roughly the same time each week and do the same things.  Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn’t come into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.

If this sounds like you and you want to kickstart your sex life back into well, life, then read on.  



1. The element of surprise can be very seductive.  Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2.    Get healthy
Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3.    Be affectionate
If you haven’t had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove.  Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other.  Touch when you talk.  Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway.  Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine.  Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.  

4.    Be sensual
Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day.  Massage their hands, scalp, back – wherever takes your fancy (if you don’t know how to massage, don’t think about it, just do what feels good).   Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.

5.    Be encouraging when your partner does something you like  
Even if you’ve been together a long time your partner doesn’t always know what you like and even if they do it doesn’t hurt to tell them once in awhile.  Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6.    Read your partner an erotic bedtime story  
The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life.  It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow.  There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people’s sexual fantasies.

7.    Have fun  
When was the last time you laughed together?  Put on your favourite track and dance.  Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner.  Take a midnight dip.

8.    Write a sexy letter  
If you can’t tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative.  It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you’ve said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com for easy-to-us love templates).

9.    Experiment
Learn a new technique together.  Try a romantic weekend away.  Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer.  If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting.  If you’re always on top then try switching things around.

10.    Focus on the now
When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing.  To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head.  Don’t worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you’re out of cereal.  Leave all that stuff to later.  Much later.  Chances are it won’t seem nearly so important once you’re done.

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Sarah Brindisi has done the hard work of ploughing through a whole pile of erotic fiction so that you can save time hunting for great erotica to read aloud to your partner or enjoy on your own. To find out more visit the sexy stories website.

Technorati Tags: , , , , , , The element of surprise can be very seductive.  Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2.    Get healthy
Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3.    Be affectionate
If you haven’t had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove.  Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other.  Touch when you talk.  Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway.  Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine.  Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.  

4.    Be sensual
Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day.  Massage their hands, scalp, back – wherever takes your fancy (if you don’t know how to massage, don’t think about it, just do what feels good).   Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.

5.    Be encouraging when your partner does something you like  
Even if you’ve been together a long time your partner doesn’t always know what you like and even if they do it doesn’t hurt to tell them once in awhile.  Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6.    Read your partner an erotic bedtime story  
The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life.  It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow.  There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people’s sexual fantasies.

7.    Have fun  
When was the last time you laughed together?  Put on your favourite track and dance.  Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner.  Take a midnight dip.

8.    Write a sexy letter  
If you can’t tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative.  It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you’ve said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com for easy-to-us love templates).

9.    Experiment
Learn a new technique together.  Try a romantic weekend away.  Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer.  If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting.  If you’re always on top then try switching things around.

10.    Focus on the now
When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing.  To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head.  Don’t worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you’re out of cereal.  Leave all that stuff to later.  Much later.  Chances are it won’t seem nearly so important once you’re done.

***

Sarah Brindisi has done the hard work of ploughing through a whole pile of erotic fiction so that you can save time hunting for great erotica to read aloud to your partner or enjoy on your own. To find out more visit the sexy stories website.

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Why men fail with women and attraction

Friday, March 10th, 2006

There are many reasons why men are failing with women and dating today but I’d like to look at it from an angle that you may not have thought about before.

When it comes to the game of attraction, many men will start becoming needy, clingy, overwhelmed, etc. this means they’re giving up their OWN personal independence (during that timebecause it all that she sees and knows about him) and showing signs of dependency on a woman.

When your emotions start to take over you have to understand where they are coming from and where they fit into the reality of things. Many men fail because they just can’t control theirthoughts and physiological response to a beautiful woman.

Just because you’re interested in her doesn’t mean she’s interested in you.

Women are world class body language readers (they were born to know what to look for and how to respond) and can see any
sign of nervousness when you are around them.

Any uncontrollable emotional response you have with women upfront (or later on in the relationship when you only see her ‘wonderful’ side and ‘fall for her’) means that you are losing your own power, strength and independence (already confusedand muddled because of growing up being hidden from the truth).

When this happens it means that she CANNOT be attracted to you.So all the nice guys out there that try to put their ‘best’ foot forward (and not really being their true self) are really failing and stepping on their own feet. They’re not being honest with themselves and their intentions.

Not to mention that many women today don’t want to be courted and feeling like they owe this guy a committed relationship, they want to be free and let things happen more naturally.

Many guys get so nervous and self-conscious around the women they desire that they don’t realize there’s nothing they could say to salvage it.

She already lost interest the second she saw him yet they’ll still try to learn pick-up lines in a desperate attempt to succeed to the point their devotion to it becomes unnatural.

All men were born with the inherent power to please women. And it’s all done on a natural level that’s really more important to her than money (except gold-diggers). And she has to be able to trust the man to BE a man.

Women are waiting for the ‘real men’ (who respect her and her body without saying a word) because there are so few left anymore.

Just have to get in touch with your natural power as a man
to reach the natural part of (all) women.

This power is greater than your own independent ‘personality’ or your social character and it’s the power that matters when it comes to succeeding with women and giving women what they want.

Become a man who is ‘comfortable in his own skin’ and maintain
that congruency and you’ll find that women will treat you differently and actually notice you.

Her interest means everything because she is the one who chooses you or not (as a response to your character or approach) but as a man you will lead the way.

The nice guy will ‘fail’ in attracting women because he’s not inspiring an instinctual or natural response in her to him.

Is it his fault for growing up in a forced reality which covers up his real power and effectiveness? No.

Does he have to take accountability for his actions and
future? Yes. Understanding these things will allow him to move forward into a whole level of success that he has only dreamed of.

I like to see things this way:

You can’t go with a fat, ugly chick just as much as she can’t
go with a man of low character.

Women today love sex just as much as men but they expect a guy they can trust first and if you’re showing signs of dependency
or that you’re too interested in her and would change your ways
to be with her, it ain’t going to work out.

The good news is that women will KNOW when you are that man
they want.

To prevent failure, just become a man of high character across
the 3 areas that matter (natural, independent and social) and
you will have women wanting to be with you and not giving up
the chance to meet you.

The whole game turns around at that point and other guys will
continue to fail because they didn’t understand the big game
of attraction and how to apply it themselves to be more
naturally themselves.

Be what women want by truly becoming the man you were supposed
to be instead of having to trick them into something and you’ll
be able to attract women nonverbally.

All men have this power and potential despite their money or
looks. It’s all about how she feels when she’s around you
and that ALL comes down to your character and who you are.

So I recommend to prevent failure and have success with
women and dating!

There are many reasons why men are failing with women and
dating today but I’d like to look at it from an angle that you may
not have thought about before.

When it comes to the game of attraction, many men will start
becoming needy, clingy, overwhelmed, etc. this means they’re
giving up their OWN personal independence (during that time
because it all that she sees and knows about him) and showing
signs of dependency on a woman.

When your emotions start to take over you have to understand
where they are coming from and where they fit into the reality
of things. Many men fail because they just can’t control their
thoughts and physiological response to a beautiful woman.

Just because you’re interested in her doesn’t mean she’s interested
in you.

Women are world class body language readers (they were born
to know what to look for and how to respond) and can see any
sign of nervousness when you are around them.

Any uncontrollable emotional response you have with women
upfront (or later on in the relationship when you only see her
‘wonderful’ side and ‘fall for her’) means that you are losing
your own power, strength and independence (already confused
and muddled because of growing up being hidden from the truth).

When this happens it means that she CANNOT be attracted to you.
So all the nice guys out there that try to put their ‘best’ foot
forward (and not really being their true self) are really failing
and stepping on their own feet. They’re not being honest with
themselves and their intentions.

Not to mention that many women today don’t want to be courted
and feeling like they owe this guy a committed relationship, they
want to be free and let things happen more naturally.

Many guys get so nervous and self-conscious around the women
they desire that they don’t realize there’s nothing they could say
to salvage it.

She already lost interest the second she saw him yet they’ll still
try to learn pick-up lines in a desperate attempt to succeed to the
point their devotion to it becomes unnatural.

All men were born with the inherent power to please women.
And it’s all done on a natural level that’s really more important
to her than money (except gold-diggers). And she has to be
able to trust the man to BE a man.

Women are waiting for the ‘real men’ (who respect her and her
body without saying a word) because there are so few left
anymore.

Just have to get in touch with your natural power as a man
to reach the natural part of (all) women.

This power is greater than your own independent ‘personality’
or your social character and it’s the power that matters when
it comes to succeeding with women and giving women what they
want.

Become a man who is ‘comfortable in his own skin’ and maintain
that congruency and you’ll find that women will treat you differently
and actually notice you.

Her interest means everything because she is the one who chooses
you or not (as a response to your character or approach) but as a
man you will lead the way.

The nice guy will ‘fail’ in attracting women because he’s not
inspiring an instinctual or natural response in her to him.

Is it his fault for growing up in a forced reality which
covers up his real power and effectiveness? No.

Does he have to take accountability for his actions and
future? Yes. Understanding these things will allow him
to move forward into a whole level of success that he
has only dreamed of.

I like to see things this way:

You can’t go with a fat, ugly chick just as much as she can’t
go with a man of low character.

Women today love sex just as much as men but they expect a guy
they can trust first and if you’re showing signs of dependency
or that you’re too interested in her and would change your ways
to be with her, it ain’t going to work out.

The good news is that women will KNOW when you are that man
they want.

To prevent failure, just become a man of high character across
the 3 areas that matter (natural, independent and social) and
you will have women wanting to be with you and not giving up
the chance to meet you.

The whole game turns around at that point and other guys will
continue to fail because they didn’t understand the big game
of attraction and how to apply it themselves to be more
naturally themselves.

Be what women want by truly becoming the man you were supposed
to be instead of having to trick them into something and you’ll
be able to attract women nonverbally.

All men have this power and potential despite their money or
looks. It’s all about how she feels when she’s around you
and that ALL comes down to your character and who you are.

So I recommend to prevent failure and have success with
women and dating!

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How to Avoid Ending Up in the Dating Hall of Shame By Letting Your Date Keep Their Dignity

Wednesday, March 8th, 2006

Everyone has had a bad date. A bad date so terrible that they immediately call their friend to dish every devilish detail, or were so humiliated, they ran home, took a bath, climbed into bed and didn’t breathe a word about it to anyone. No matter how people handle a bad date or break-up, they all have one thing in common, they never want to experience it again. People from all over the world have posted their nightmarish dating stories to the Dating Hall of Shame website. The following ten tips have been cultivated from the bad date stories and are provided to help you become a better dater so you can avoid ending up on the Dating Hall of Shame.

How to Stay Out of the Dating Hall of Shame:

1.Do not drink twice your body weight in alcohol. It may loosen you up, but no one, most of all your date, wants to see the contents of your stomach lining.

2.If you invite someone out on a date, be prepared to pay. If you cannot afford to take them to dinner, then make it a coffee date. Better yet, be honest. Tell them you really like them but cannot afford an expensive dinner, and would they mind just going for dessert. It is okay not to have money – it is not okay to be CHEAP.

3.If you are going to be a loser and cheat on your boyfriend/girlfriend, then make arrangements for your date to pick you up somewhere else other than your house. Don’t make your date pack boxing gloves!

4.Keep your clothes on – especially in public. Nudity does not constitute a good date unless both people consent to said nudity. Baring your rear-end in public while on a date only makes you look like, well, a rear-end.

5.If you are going to go on a blind date whether through a set-up or an online romance, then have the courtesy to actually show up. Do not drive-by and decide that since they didn’t mention they had a butt the size of a Buick, you are not going to give them a chance. If you set up a meeting with someone, show-up and be polite. You can make it a short date, but bring some common decency with you.

6.Buying someone a meal, coffee, movie ticket, etc. is not a trade-off for sex. It is not even a negotiating tool for touching body parts. Refer to item #4 for a refresher on the nudity thing.

7.Do not invite someone on a date and then parade him or her in front of your “ex.” A date is for getting to know someone to see if you want to develop a relationship. A date is not a tool for inciting a riot between you and your ex. Your date is also not a pawn to dangle in front of your “ex” to show that if they do not take you back, you will move on.

8.Bring your manners. If you don’t have any, then find a date that won’t care. Otherwise, prepare for the date by using a toothbrush or breath mint – rubbing your fingers over your teeth will not remove the odor of your fish lunch. Even if this is the 21st Century, it is still okay to hold the door for someone (man or woman). Manners count – end of discussion!

9.If you still live at home, by all means tell your date. Allowing them to discover your parents in a compromising position is not a great way to start a relationship. It will take a minimum of 10-years for it to be a funny family tale. Until then it will just be unbearable humiliation heaped on by constant reminders that you are probably not going to make it to family status.

10.Finally, those three little words – no, not “I love you”, but “I’ll Call You.” Do not let those words leave your mouth unless you actually plan on picking up the phone and calling. On the flip side, if your date does not call you back, it will hurt, but you will survive. This does not give you carte blanche to revert to revenge, stalking and torture.

Heidi Heller Niehart is a former syndicated singles columnist and the author of Quiche and Tell: Advice and Recipes for Singles, a compilation of articles broken down into the stages of relationships. Ms. Niehart is also the founder of he DatingHallofShame.com, were broken hearted daters can go to commiserate and share a laugh. She is also an example to singles to show that dating advice and persistence can work as she is married with three children. She is also working on a sequel to her book entitled Too Tired to Quiche: A collection of witty and somewhat horrifying tales of marriage and raising kids. You my contact Ms. Niehart via email at mystory@datinghallofshame.com

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